The Detrimental Effects of Verbal Abuse and How to Stop the Cycle
The Detrimental Effects of Verbal Abuse and How to Stop the Cycle!
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.”
Is it true?
Truth is Name-calling hurts— especially when the person doing it is a parent, a teacher, or a coach.
Yelling and screaming might have been the way you were brought up, and you might think it worked for you, so why wouldn’t it work for your kids?
Question is: are you winning?
Name-calling, swearing, insulting, threats of withdrawal of affection, blaming or using sarcasm are all forms of emotional abuse.
It may be characterized by underlying anger and hostility, a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the child and produce negative feelings.
Remember how it made you feel then, as a child, growing up. You probably felt belittled, devalued even insignificant.
Verbal abuse and name calling may cause emotional trauma that can result in a long-term sense of insecurity and hurt for your child. It can weaken your child’s self-esteem, damage his or her ability to trust and form long term secure relationships as well as impact both academically and socially.
Recent research suggests that children who suffer from verbal abuse are highly likely to become victims of abuse later in life, become abusive themselves, or become depressed and self-destructive later in life. It likewise can impact every element of their life; academic performance, their relationships with peers and their successes at work later in life.
When verbal abuse is particularly severe it can impact whether the child can see him/herself as being successful in any area of life.
Let’s be real here, as a mother of four boys, I am tested on all sides at every level every day. Some days are better than others, there is no way you will not feel frustrated and angry with some of their attitudes especially when i feel i should know better. Talk about realistic expectations huh!
For some parents though, there are no happy moments for the child because the lashing out and name calling is frequent occurrence- more frequent they become the cause for concern.
Remember, your child learns from You. Not what you say but what you do. Unconditional love is an attitude of caring and positive affection that describes relationships. Parents who love their children in this way correct their child’s mistaken behaviors instead of denouncing the child. The message given should be: “I don’t like what you did, and I still love you.”