Parenting the Inner Child! What You Need To Know About Your Emotional Freedom.
As your children are growing, you undoubtedly are discovering that each has its unique personality and temperament. You have probably unconsciously redeveloped your parenting skills around the individual needs of your child. And no two children are exactly alike, and therefore, your parenting style shouldn’t be either. Some children may need more guidance and feel more unsure of themselves, so we’ve become used to having to guide, lead, show and encourage that child consistently through their childhood while still trying to encourage independence and give praise to build their self-esteem and confidence level. Yet another of your child may be very intrinsically motivated and very willful, not needing a great deal of guidance or leadership from you. Whatever your parenting style today, it is the outcome of your problems, strengths,
habits and level of self-esteem… If the people around you raised you naturally and healthily, you will hopefully turn out into a well-balanced and strong parent. However, if your youthful experiences are filled with traumas and problems, regardless of your age, if you have experienced several problems and heartaches in the past. Whether it is bullying, loneliness, insecurity or even lack of attention and affection from your family, all of these may affect your current situation and impacts your parenting style today.
Do you know what inner child is?
If not, then, read on… Discovering and embracing your inner child allows you to experience a happy and balanced life. It is said that all humans are children at heart- Innocent and always searching for the meaning of life!
Experts state your inner child is normally happy, blissful and adventurous. It is believed to be your friendly, joyful, emotional, fun-loving, playful, excitable side of you. Similar to the outer child, Psychologists asserts that the inner child is the human’s childlike aspect that includes everything you learned and experienced
as a kid before puberty…
As you know, human personalities emerge as an outcome of genetic code or inherited characteristics. According to Carl Jung, the father of psychotherapy and psychiatry. His work plays a huge role in the study of philosophy, religion, archaeology, literature and other related fields. Compared to other psychiatrists, he is known for his work with the development of the psyche and personality types. He believes Humans have both introverted and extroverted attitude in life, the core of the human psyche is the SELF.
This means our childhood are dictated by those who raise us -introvert/ extrovert and can usually cause scars that will take several years to heal. Hence, the inner child and all the flaws remain with us as we progress through life.
The emotional wounds you may have suffered in your childhood develops with time and as time passes, you will become emotionally susceptible to dysfunctional parenting. To heal your wounded inner child, you have to develop trust. It means that your inner child needs to trust you. Your inner child should understand that you are there to protect and nurture it. Learning how to discover and embrace your inner child allows the frightened child to fight back and move on. Try to understand the grief of your inner child and learn to lovingly embrace it. When you welcome the pains of your inner child with open arms, you are one step ahead for great healing. Possibly a happier and balanced parenting life- not repeating the mistakes and dysfunction of the last generation…
Maybe you will ask, why bother connect with your inner child?
The answer is very simple. Your inner child is the aspect of your awareness that is naturally innocent, uncomplicated and playful. It is also the best part that has a simple sense of bonding to your whole Spirit.
If you have experienced a dysfunctional upbringing as a child, you need to be true to self and build a relationship with your inner child. This can help to heal and restore your consciousness to its natural state and be more aware of your own emotions. To do this, you need to search for your physical needs. The typical
examples of these are feeding yourself positively, learning how to care for others, developing your positive emotions.
Why Do You Need to Parent Your Inner Child?
There are several reasons why you have to heal your inner child but you have to understand and get enough knowledge about the variations of our inner child:
- The Playful Child – This self is a naturally playful, spontaneous,
creative and blissful child. This self is always searching to play.
Most of us have forgotten how to do this without worries and guilt.
The Spoiled Child – This is a part of you that always have to get what you want. If you don’t get it, you will throw temper
tantrums. You will also feel life is not fair, feel annoyed and have mixed confusing feelings.
The Neglected Child – This child self feels alone because of the lack of nurture and love. They don’t believe that they are worthy to be cared
for and be loved. Vice versa, they struggle to understand and show love/affection.
The Abandoned Child – This child self has been left because of various reasons. Some of them are inadvertently rejected and left at home because their parents are too busy with their schedules. Parents that are always quarrelling and tangled up with their emotional problems. This child is emotionally ignored by their parents and they also feel anxious that others will leave them behind. This child lacks a commitment to the relationship and acts out in irresponsible ways.
The Fearful Child – This child has been criticized when growing up. They often need lots of positive affirmations and encouragement to boost self-esteem.
The Unbonded Child – This child doesn’t know how to be close to
anyone. They are always alone and feel isolated. They prefer to
trust themselves than to other people around them. Their main
issue is trust and honesty. They also need lots of affection, love and support.
The Spiritual Child – This is the part of self that searches for answers from higher spheres. To heal the inner child, it requires a balance within oneself and being able to give and receive love from others.
Most experts agree that inner child affects the life of every
individual. Most of them claimed that inner child influences the following:
Human’s Thoughts, Imagery and Perceptions – That the inner child
always interprets your present world. Depending on your past, you will act rightfully or not. Your inner child also contributes past viewpoints into your adult outlook, especially when it comes to love, relationship and self-esteem.
Human’s Emotions and Other Energy Tones – Say, for instance, if you were hurt due to excessive criticism by your friends or parents, your inner child still fears the same type of criticism. So in your
adult life, this fear might be revived if you find your self in familiar situations…
Human’s Action – Depending on your inner child, you may act defensively and may also affect future success. You can become good at masking your pains to overcome your everyday challenge or situation at work or business.
Your inner child impact life, you have to heal through parenting yourself!. You can seek help from professionals but If you prefer to seek assistance from the psychiatrist, it is advised that you ensure you are familiar with their backgrounds and understand their work principles.
Through parenting your inner child, you will learn to value Yourself and the
efforts of other people, it becomes easy for you to accept the reality because socially competent children are ones who have a strong sense of self-worth and importance. When a child feels good about themselves, it’s easy for them to treat others in a positive, helpful manner.