Co-Sleeping- My baby sleeps with me!
While western culture discourages it, studies have shown that co-sleeping with a breastfeeding infant promotes bonding, regulates the mother and baby’s sleep patterns, plays a role in helping the mother to become more responsive to her baby’s cues, and gives both the mother and baby needed rest. The co-sleeping environment also assists mothers in the continuation of breastfeeding on demand which is, an essential step in maintaining the mother’s milk supply.
The myths about Co-Sleeping involves sharing the same bed as the baby- aka letting baby sleep in the same bed with you. Most doctors do not support this since it can increase the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). However, co-sleeping can also mean merely putting the baby to sleep in the same room as you but in a separate Moses’ basket or crib next to your bed.
There are many ways of co-sleeping. Some mothers keep their babies in bed with them all the time. Other mothers set up the crib or bassinet in the mother’s room; their babies are brought to the mother’s bed when they wake. Other mothers sleep with their babies on a mattress in the baby’s room.
Putting the baby’s crib or Moses’ basket in your room means your baby is right there with you.. few steps away says Rallie McAllister, MD, MPH, a family practitioner in Kingsport, Tennessee, and co-author of The Mommy MD Guide to Pregnancy and Birth. He says: Your baby’s crib should be her haven. This is best for your baby and you and what will help you both get the most sleep!
Even if you are a light sleeper, or you remove your fluffy duvet to make it an â€œsafeâ€ co-sleeping bed, maybe you only do it this one time, the truth is, it doesn’t matter. All it takes is a single opportunity for tragedy to strike.
Co-sleeping statistical research suggests that the majority of sleep-related fatalities in babies can be attributed to bed-sharing: A 2014 study found that 69 per cent of babies were bed sharing at the time of their death. Scary to even think!
Yes, co-sleeping can help boost a baby’s development. Professor James McKenna, a professor of anthropology at the University of Notre Dame and director of the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory. Says Sharing your room with your baby helps their senses develop because babies need to learn to respond to the sensory signals of others, including smells, movements, sounds, touches and heat, s “To put baby alone in a room and close the door does not help baby learn, grow and develop those sensory distinctions, he added that, when the baby first enters the world, they start building a relationship with their mother, father or caregiver. They depend on these people to help teach them how to react.”
So if you decide to co-sleep with your infant, there are some guidelines for doing it effectively and safely.
Parents should not sleep with their babies if they are smokers or have ingested alcohol or drugs. Do not co-sleep if you drink alcohol or medications that make you sleepy, take drugs or smoke. Co-sleep only on beds, not on couches or recliners. Bedding should be tight fitting to the mattress, and the mattress should be tight fitting to the headboard of the bed. There should not be any loose pillows or soft blankets near the baby’s face. There should not be any space between the bed and adjoining wall where the baby could roll and become trapped. Moreover, of course, the baby should not be placed on its stomach.
There are as many options as there are parents and babies. As babies grow and change their sleep patterns, families often respond by changing sleeping spaces.
However, co-sleeping shouldn’t stop the romance between you and your partner
I know that the lack of sleep will probably leave you wanting more sleep than sex, but co-sleeping with the baby in your room shouldn’t put a damper on the romance. “Where you decide to let your baby sleep isn’t the sole reason for the dissolution of your marriage or the reason you and your partner are no longer intimate,” McKenna says, emphasising there are always other issues at play as well.
For some parents, room sharing with a baby requires them to find other ways and moments to be romantic and help spice things up: time for more adult conversation! It makes the intimacy between my husband more interesting because you have to be even more creative now!
The only right choice is what works to give the whole family as much rest as possible.