Valentines day disappointment? Embrace it!
Valentine’s Day is a day devoted to romantic love and often full of expectations. So what happens where your expectations are not met and no love cards or Roses: Does it get complicated for you?
It is reported that most people contemplate divorce on February 15th! After another Valentine’s Day disappointment, February 15 is reported to be the day that spouses take action to protect their romantic heart’s future-the real New Year’s resolution that most spouses keep!
Valentine’s Day’s origin is associated by legend Saint Valentine in Roman Catholicism, the fact is Valentine’s Day is not a religious holiday and never really has been. Valentine’s Day is reported to have its historical roots mainly in Greco-Roman pagan fertility festivals and the notion that birds usually pair off to mate on February 14. Talk about human love birds!
I noted from Google Research that the history of exchanging cards and other tokens of love on February 14 developed in England and France in the 14th and 15th centuries and became especially popular in the United States in the 19th and 20th centuries. It is suggested that the primary custom associated with St. Valentine’s Day is the mutual exchange of love notes -with common symbols of hearts, colours of red and pink, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Now the practice of exchanging cards has been extended to include the giving of gifts, roses, and chocolate. I further learned that starting in the 1980s, the diamond industry began to promote Valentine’s Day as an occasion for the giving of fine exquisite jewelry. Still awaiting my delivery! (yea right!).
So what is Your reality? Why are you disappointed if Valentine’s day did not go as You expected?
We know that real life and actual people can be more or less than we hope they should be. In real life, things do not necessarily go as planned. So get real.
Do you realize that sometimes Your lover may be too busy unblocking and trying to find his/her Self… It can be overwhelming… you know trying to understand one’s self. Real people and real love can be messy. It can often pretend to be rosy on the surface but the truth is no one wakes up with perfectly made-up hair. No one wins perfectly in all areas every day. Sometimes partner forgets anniversaries and birthdays and most will especially sneak out in the early hours of Valentine’s Day to find a leftover card or sickly looking bunch of flowers at the petrol stations or the late-night Shops because they know it matters to you. What is your take? The thing about love in all its everyday beauty is that it was never designed to be a mandate..
Love shouldn’t brand itself unloved because it didn’t get roses/card/kisses/bug hugs on Valentine’s day..
Love shouldn’t moan because it feels let down not getting the card from the man/lover on valentine’s day. Realistically, real love can be too busy working the late shift, nurturing the baby around the clock to find time to write down all the ways they love you – they’re too busy living the love and not only on the valentine’s day!
So, do not huff and puff and compare and point fingers.
Yes, we know everyone needs acknowledgment. But when you are in danger of keeping score of what you got or didn’t get, or whether you were spoiled or celebrated sufficiently according to Valentine’s day .. You missing out on You. True love is when somebody sees something in You that no one else can see…
Do not demand love because You are its embodiment. It should come naturally. Its beauty oozes in/out and around you.
For some, what seems perfect on the outside with all the best of valentine gifts may be ugly bitter and rotten inside, as the bearer, they wish it is a dream that they will wake up from, walk away and be sane again next minutes. Sometimes, not such easy decisions.
I have discovered that now I am too busy admiring the wonders in other peoples’ DNA including- my boys, especially cancer survivors who fought long and hard with the treatments yet are determined to live life even louder. What about those who strife to work and provide for their family, sweating their way to the top. Love lives largely through the victories of others.
Don’t force yourself on others, let Love happen naturally to you because You deserved to be loved.
Love never looks back- Not to the last fight, the last failure, the last forgotten Valentine. Love only has eyes for today.
So if Valentine’s Day tends to disappoint, you’re invited be the gift this year instead of expecting a gift.