My name is Eme Effiwatt.
Welcome to Infant Baby Cares,
Welcome, and thank you for visiting.
Looking after your new baby is a time filled with changing roles and identities. For some, it can be ecstatic and rewarding. For many, it is overwhelming and exhausting, and it is totally natural for the relationship between the new parents to change significantly. One of the first noticeable things is the way your conversations go with your husband/partner. You no longer sit nurturing a cup of tea together and discussing your day. Both your heads are filled with thoughts and concerns about your baby: do you need more nappies, how is your baby sleeping, will baby need more milk? Quickly the mundane daily report switches to topics of concern. The questions seem endless and can become like an interrogation.
I am Eme Effiwatt. A specialist public Health Practitioner. My self and partner Joyce are two of a kind with more than two decades of collective experience addressing everyday parenting concerns including issues around infant and child development, transition into parenthood support, unsocial behaviour management and sleep problems.
My role as a parent and professional stretches my comfort zone daily. I encounter many adaptions of family structure and its many dynamics. I strive to help all new parents develop an accurate expectation of parenthood. Other times my role has offered me opportunities to indulge my passion of motivating and empowering Career goddesses- (who are used to being in control of most things), helping them enjoy and to sensitively promote realistic expectations as new parents.
Joyce (my partner) have worked with many parents and their children and have extensive experience working with parents and children who have experienced domestic abuse and its impact on attachment and changes in children’s behaviour. Also, a trained Care of Next Infant- (CONI) Coordinator – offering emotional support to families who have lost babies previously to still birth, miscarriages or another circumstances. Working with the new parents to alleviate anxieties and empowering them with infant basic lifestyle support skills to enjoy their new baby.
Our motherhood journey>>
I am a Mother of 4 Boys!
I’ve been through every baby care concern in the book. Premature baby at 26 weeks, and statement spectrum autistic Asperger’s (not clinically confirmed) but he is my perfect son. My other 2 boys are easy and simple but everything that you expect from boys. My youngest son we’ll discuss in just a bit, he was a completely different experience!
My path to motherhood started earlier than I expected. That didn’t stop me from wanting a career or force me to change my values. But you see, I didn’t start out with a plan on what sort of mother I would be. I have 8 siblings, and I thought motherhood was simply achieving a balance. Finding the safe space between feeding, sleeping, dealing with messed diapers and changing the wees as often as possible! Hence, having a career and keeping up with motherhood wouldn’t be a problem! But, boy, was I wrong!
Growing up, my mother guided me with the centuries-old pattern: get married young and have your children. Then, she changed her mind and began encouraging me to put off the marriage milestone. Instead, she said, go to college, pursue a career, and find true love. It was a lot of pressure to attain these new goals she set out for me. But, the only thing I wondered was at what age is right to settle down with a Prince Charming and become a mother?
From the start, I planned to be a Career mother and did not necessarily agree that all women need a husband or partner to be fulfilled; neither did I want to just stay home with my kids.
Looking back now, I wasn’t prepared for the responsibilities that come with a newborn. I didn’t account for the cluster feeding and sleepless nights and the ever-constant nappy changes. I couldn’t get an even complain about being tired; I was too exhausted! But who listened?
Back then, with no social media motherhood was lonely at first; with only a newborn to talk to all day. I felt stuck somewhere in the middle — a stay-at-home mother in body, an aspiring career woman in spirit. But the joy of parenthood itself, taught me skills in problem-solving, collaboration and communication
This is something that many first-time mothers struggle through.
So now, years and many children later, I speak from experience and care. What are your concerns for your baby? What are your concerns for parenthood? Let me in and let us help! There are no silly questions in motherhood, so what are yours?
My 4 boys and professional experience makes me an expert in all areas of newborn behaviors, especially after my last boy. Though my first 3 boys were struggles in different ways, my youngest needed everything extra! More attention, more holding and more rocking to quiet down and relax. Always appears generally unhappy or discontent. His feeding and sleeping habits were so irregular and unpredictable. I was simply confused- feeding every hour, sleeping in short spurts, fussing to even have nappy changes! His every day reactions of discomforts were extreme. For instance, instead of fussing because he was hungry, tired, dirty or wants a cuddle, he would scream at the top of lungs. I had already gone through the newborn phase 3 times, why was it so hard now? I often wonder!
Every step with my youngest son was small progress down a long and lonely journey. He exerted his voice for everything. His every reaction was extreme and always unhappy. I started to feel that I was a bad mother, and worried that my neighbors were judging me every time he let out a scream. But now he is 11-years-old and is one of the funniest and most caring children I know. I wake up to cuddles and kisses, a pleasure that I would trade many more sleepless nights to keep. This is my story.
Joyce is a mother of two young children. ” I always taught parenting is easy?” said Joyce.” I am a very calm person. Subsequently, I thought I just need to always remain calm. My first child was text book perfect. He feeds and sleeps every 2 -3 hours. What bliss! I was able to have my life back as early as I can remember! Just the way I liked it! Then came my lovely second daughter. Second time around? No worries. I have the confident and no trouble at all. Besides, I am a child care expert, this is my every day role! So, I am in charge! Well, so I thought but my daughter was a little personality from day Zero.
My experience with her was the constant crying, no time to eat, no time to bath, forget socialising. She made sure she was the centre of all and only my attention! Grandparents and other member of the family could not bond as they did with my son. Sometimes it feels like she will not agree to anyone to dare to give me a break.. Frustrated? Tired? Name the feelings’… sometimes it feels like she is very protective of her space, if anyone came in to proximity including her dad she will scream the whole house down, hence, no one could really offer me a helping hand. She only wanted me and ONLY me!
Going down the shops? hubby will be waiting with her, watching through the window and counting the minutes! Going out with my precious daughter were equally anxious times as well. It felt like she had a car phobia! As soon as the engine roars, her crying starts until the engine stops! So, would you say she is the most unsocial baby? No way. All I did was persevere.
Now grown into a lovely, chatty adorable young girl. Very friendly too. Who would have believed that!
So, now you’re the new mother, with a bundle of joy and no manual!
Forget everything you googled! Forget about the endless advice from parenting books! Your baby is special, and their developing personality is completely unique. Infect them with behaviors and attitudes from your own family genes!
Nothing can prepare you for parenthood. We all become accustomed to controlling our destiny, but pregnancy and motherhood are unpredictable. A parent must understand and accept frustration hand-in-hand with joy.
Soon enough you’ll start to see the beginnings of your unique motherhood story. You grow to love your children’s personalities and quirks. The initial feelings of self-doubt and loneliness quickly replace themselves with passion and joy.
You are here as a new parent with the best intentions for your newborn.
No matter what your experience is or your issue we can relate to it either professionally or on a personal level.
Don’t fret! We are flexible. We work hard and will strive to meet your needs and your budget for best outcome. We’ll always be honest with you to support, advise and encourage you every step of the way.
The parenting journey is amazing. You can have fun!
What’s more amazing in the world than carrying in your arms a piece of you?
It is a very empowering experience!
Let us help you enjoy your unique experience all the way!